50 OVER 50 PROJECT FOR 2021
"Let go of trying to do everything right, have more fun and trust yourself more."
What is the best thing about being your age?
Caring less about what other people think.
What hardships have you endured that you feel have made you stronger?
I have been living with fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue syndrome for over 20 years. The pain and fatigue have kept me from doing a lot of the things that I love. Having an invisible illness has taught me to be kinder to myself and to stand up for myself. I have had to chart my own course and have learned how to have a really good life despite the challenges of living with chronic illness.
What is a trait you are most proud of?
I am proud of my ability to find the beauty in and celebrate the little things, my ability to laugh at myself and find the humor in almost anything and my resilience.
What do you most value in your friends?
My friends are so important to me. They have a deep appreciation for the women in their lives and make their friendships a priority. They listen and lift me up. They see the best in me.
What is your motto or favorite quote?
“Sing like you don’t need the money, dance like nobody’s watching and love like you’ll never get hurt.” – Susanna Clark. What advice would you give your younger self?
When I was younger I was so concerned with being normal, following the rules and not rocking the boat. I would tell my younger self to let go of trying to do everything right, to have more fun and to trust herself more. And in the words of Helen Mirren, “At 70 years old, if I could give my younger self one piece of advice it would be to use the words ‘fuck off’ much more often.”