50 OVER 50 PROJECT FOR 2021
Revenue Accounting Supervisor, Retired Massage Therapist/Esthetician
"Be who you are and say how you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those that matter don’t mind."
What is the best thing about being your age?
Age is irrelevant. Ask me how many trips I have taken, sunsets I have seen, laughs I have shared, concerts I have been to, bedtime stories I’ve read, and people I have loved. That is how old I am.
What hardships have you endured that you feel have made you stronger?
When I married my husband, Craig, I knew he had a family history of Huntington’s disease. After 12 very happy years together he began developing symptoms, both physical and mental/emotional including loss of empathy, manic depression, bipolar disorder as well as MS and Parkinson’s type symptoms. As the disease progressed, I watched the man I loved become a completely different person. It was heartbreaking watching him deteriorate mentally and physically. I went from being his partner to being his caregiver. I needed to mourn him as if he had died. This experience has made me stronger in that it helped develop my patience and compassion. I have also had to learn how to balance all my other responsibilities and remain calm while at the same time managing his needs and extreme mood swings.
What's your favorite thing you have checked off your bucket list?
I do not really have a bucket list however I did have an amazing opportunity to go to New Zealand with my son and visit my 1st cousin who has lived there for almost 35 years. It was an experience of a lifetime.
What is your idea of perfect happiness?
Spending time with my family, friends. Seeing live music.
what is your greatest extravagance?
Buying the best seats at a concert. If I am going to see a live show, I want to be up close and personal so that I can take pictures.
What is your most treasured possession? When I was a kid, we would take family vacations where my mother could hunt for rocks and my dad could fish. When my mom passed away all I wanted was all her rocks. I have so many beautiful geodes/crystals and various kind of rocks all displayed in my “rock” Rock & Roll room. I also have a collection of over 600 vinyl records.
what do you consider your greatest achievement?
Raising my son William as a single mother and having him turn out to be an amazing young man. He is a physical therapist for an orthopedic surgeon and has blessed me with a now 8-year-old grandson, Lincoln.
What is a trait you are most proud of?
I would like to think that I have a very positive attitude. My son may roll his eyes, but I also think that I am funny. And, laughter is the best medicine.
What do you most value in your friends?
My friends are always there when I need them, whether for emotional support and understanding or just laughter and fun. I appreciate that I can be my authentic self with them, and they are genuine in return. They accept me just as I am and love me unconditionally.
If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
What is your motto or favorite quote?
Music is life, that is why our hearts have beats. What advice would you give your younger self?
Do not let anyone ever tell you your dreams are out of reach. Smile more, worry less. Listen to advice from your elder’s odds are they know what they’re talking about.
Words of wisdom for younger women
Be who you are and say how you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those that matter don’t mind.
"Aging is an extraordinary process where you become the person you always should have been." – David Bowie