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Deborah Wine

Age: 65

Elementary School Teacher (Bilingual) for 35 years. Licensed Acupuncturist.

"Join in. Stand up for something. Connect with others (in a safe way). Let yourself be known. Develop self-compassion. Throw in a little sex and rock ‘n roll."

Deborah Wine

What is the best thing about being your age?

I accept myself – I’m not scared of learning about my flaws, and I feel good about the ways I have grown and become a more mature person. I am growing into ease, shedding self-consciousness, realizing and accepting that change is the law of the Universe. I am part of the Universe.

What's your favorite thing you have checked off your bucket list?

Taking responsibility for my life. I love this poem by Mary Oliver: “What will engage you? Do you carry around the iron thing? What will open the locked doors of your consciousness? What will give you hope and promise? Like a lover at first blush. And why are you not out knocking down every door to find what you need? I will not give anyone the responsibility for my life. I will not ever pity those who do.” What is your idea of perfect happiness?

Happiness comes in layers. First layer: World peace, clean water for all, and no wildfires!!! Second layer: All my friends and all their friends, my family and everyone they care about having a sense of peacefulness. Third layer: Waking up refreshed after a great sleep, taking a 35-50 mile bike ride with my beautiful girlfriend, a great swim in a sparkling blue pool, followed by a scrumptious meal and a nap.

What is your most treasured possession? I could say that my most treasured possession is a painting I have. It gives me so much juice to look at it because it encompasses many things I value… magic, nature, spirit, imagination, reflection.

Also, I could say, three photographs of my grandparents when they were younger because they help me have perspective on who I really am and who/where I come from.

Or, I could say a copy of the book (memoir) my mother wrote and published, Stitches In Time, because it embodies so beautifully who she is…the stories of her life before she was born, and as she was growing up, reflecting a time and ambience that is no more; how she crafted her stories so perfectly-choosing every word deliberately and every heartfelt and heart-wrenching vignette with care – to share with us, her true voice.

But, I will choose, not a possession, but the treasure. And that treasure is the beautiful and amazing, shining light, Carolyn, my partner.

what do you consider your greatest achievement?

One of my greatest achievements was as a bilingual elementary school teacher, the 1000+ kids – 2nd graders, first graders, 5th, and middle schoolers, I graduated to the next grade; helping them build a foundation for a lifetime of life skills, problem-solving, curiosity, and learning.

Also… Graduating myself to the place where I know/believe that it is okay to have my own opinion, feel what I am feeling, recognize what I want/need-to value myself.

what is your greatest extravagance?

My greatest extravagance, which has transformed into a necessity, is my awesome, genius-like, personal trainer Paul. He is so smart, creative, innovative, and humorous. Perfectly challenging.

Also, this perfectly fabulous photo shoot with Jana and Katie.

What do you most value in your friends?

I have such a motley crew of friends. So diverse in their belief systems, life-experiences, backgrounds, and talents. What draws me to them? One thing we all have in common is that we are confident in our abilities and resiliency, and we are independent at heart. We’ve made our own paths, with mistakes and successes, and no/few regrets.

What is your motto or favorite quote?

“I believe in kindness. Also in mischief.” “Keep some room in your heart for the unimaginable.” “It is a serious thing/just to be alive/on this fresh morning/in this broken world.” What advice would you give your younger self?

Join in. Stand up for something. Connect with others (in a safe way). Let yourself be known. Develop self-compassion. Throw in a little sex and rock ‘n roll.

Words of wisdom for younger women

– Use a high quality face/skin cream every day.

–Start at a young age (twenties?) to work on your personal growth, in a variety of modalities-integrative or holistic therapy, self help programs, somatic psychotherapy, spiritual pursuits… –Be healthy-adventurous; push your comfort zones, a little… –Find something, or a couple of things, you’re passionate about and weave those through your life. The threads help you stay connected to yourself and your life as you move through time and space, phases, ages, life experiences, and all your feelings.

Deborah Wine
Deborah Wine