50 OVER 50 PROJECT FOR 2020
"Life isn't fair
so stop trying so hard
to fight that fact.
Change what you can and accept the rest."
age: 52 profession: Marketing Executive
What is the best thing about being your age?
Wisdom that can only come through years of leaning in to teachable moments. Confidence. Courage. Strength. Surrender. The willingness to give myself and others a break when mistakes are made and not to care so damn much about what people think about me.
What hardships have you endured that you feel have made you stronger?
My husband, Aaron, died of cancer in January 2020 after a year-long battle with cancer. F**k cancer. He was my best friend and the most amazing father to our two girls. A part of me is gone, and I'm still not sure how I've made it this far. One foot in front of the other, I guess. Supporting him and our girls through his process, and being with him until the very end, has made me a more compassionate and caring person with a true understanding of what really matters in life.
What do you consider your greatest achievement?
My two daughters are my crowning achievement. They are amazing young women who have strong morals and values and believe in helping others.
What is your most treasured possession?
This is a tough one. I think I would have to say the home that Aaron and I built together.
What's your favorite thing you have checked off your bucket list?
Going to the south of France for a yoga retreat.
What is your greatest extravagance?
Good makeup. I discovered Jane Iredale makeup years ago and I'll never use anything else. Oh, and well-made shoes that are comfortable and stylish. Life is too short for bad makeup and uncomfortable feet.
If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
I think I would like to be a little less practical than I am and a bit more carefree.
What is your idea of perfect happiness?
Being in nature with my family.
What is a trait you are most proud of?
My strength and resilience.
What is your greatest fear?
That my girls and I might get sick with Covid. We've already lost so much this year. I don't know that we can withstand another tragedy of significant magnitude. At least not in f'ing 2020!
What do you most value in your friends?
Honesty. Kindness. Generosity. The ability to laugh at oneself and at life.
What advice would you give your younger self?
So many things. Lighten up a bit. Stop trying so hard to be perfect. You are enough. Get out of your head, follow your heart, and stop worrying so much about what might happen tomorrow. Be content in the moment and appreciate all of life's wonderful gifts. Spend more quality time with the people that you love and put work a bit lower on the priority list. Life isn't fair so stop trying so hard to fight that fact. Change what you can and accept the rest. Don't be so critical of yourself and others – it serves no good purpose. I'll stop now.
What is your motto or favorite quote?
"Don't take yourself too damn seriously.”