50 OVER 50 PROJECT FOR 2021
"Don’t be hesitant to tell people you love them, it can make all the difference to
their lives and the outcome of yours.
Surround yourself with people who add joy and value to your life."
age: 55 profession: Mortgage Loan Consultant
What is the best thing about being your age?
I’ve learned not to sweat the small stuff (the big stuff is stressful enough). I’ve also learned how to read people better, which is helpful for eliminating the negative and focusing on the positive – always trying to keep it real.
What hardships have you endured that you feel have made you stronger?
Going through the passing of both of my parents within 5 years (as an only child) has been certainly heartbreaking, but also has brought to light the concept of death, and that it can actually provide some beauty and appreciation that you don’t get to feel until it happens. Seeing the people who took care of me my whole life then need my care, I saw myself step up to the plate and really cherish the time I had with them toward the end.
What do you consider your greatest achievement?
I was able to care for and spend a great deal of time with my father after my mother passed. We became even closer, and I really deepened my already-solid relationship with him, providing us with memories and times I will always cherish. I know he appreciated it too, very special.
What's your favorite thing you have checked off your bucket list?
I finally rode a horse (at a dude ranch) at age 42. I faced a fear AND checked it off! Next item – learn to play piano!
What is your most treasured possession?
I have a room in my parents’ home (which is now my inherited home) that is dedicated to my father and mother. Filled with their memorabilia, awards, photos, it is a tribute sanctuary where I can spend time relaxing and feeling close to them.
What is your idea of perfect happiness?
Having my children find their own selves and peace. Enjoying life’s little pleasures as well as a few big ones too with the people closest to my heart.
What is a trait you are most proud of?
Nurturing long-time friendships.
what is your greatest extravagance?
Massages, expensive wine, high thread count sheets. And hair extensions 😊
what do you most value in your friends?
Growing up an only child, I have always clung very closely to my friendships and invest a great deal in them. My close friends always have my back and will offer their support in the form of honest conversation, open ears and hearts, and by being non-judgmental.
What advice would you give your younger self?
Don’t be hesitant to tell people you love them, it can make all the difference to their lives and the outcome of yours. Surround yourself with people who add joy and value to your life – it’s too short to spend with energy-drainers!
What is your motto or favorite quote?
You get what you give. I believe if you put good out into the universe, good will make it’s way back to you. On the flip side, if you expect things to fail, those things will manifest. Your life is a choice.
Words of wisdom for younger women
Don’t be afraid to speak your mind. Always find something you like when you look in the mirror (inside counts as much as the outside!).
Volunteer, it helps you realize there’s something out there bigger than yourself. And laugh – laugh – laugh!