50 OVER 50 PROJECT FOR 2020
"Don't let the fear of inadequacy or failure keep you from
trying new things.
Take more chances."
age: 53 profession: Bookkeeper (what I get paid to do) and Actor (what I wish I got paid to do more often!)
What is the best thing about being your age?
Finally feeling comfortable in my own skin.
What hardships have you endured that you feel have made you stronger?
I grew up with an alcoholic, authoritarian father. It took years for me to understand how dysfunctional my family was and the effects that it had on me well into adulthood. I’ve come a long way and I’m proud of that, and I keep working to be better.
What do you consider your greatest achievement?
Raising two beautiful human beings. I’m so proud of both of my kids.
What is your idea of perfect happiness?
I’m lucky to have many perfect happinesses. Time spent with my kids and/or my sweetheart, backpacking miles from nowhere, cuddling with my dogs, a “girls’ night” with my besties, performing a great show, traveling…it’s hard to choose. I love my life!
What is your most treasured possession?
Family things…family photos, my grandmothers’ rings, things my kids made for me when they were little, a special wine glass that my son gave to me, etc.
What's your favorite thing you have checked off your bucket list?
Traveling out of country…and I’m not done with that yet!
If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
I would not have arthritis. I like to be physically active and having arthritis makes that a challenge.
What is your greatest fear?
Losing a child. I can’t think of anything more horrible.
What is a trait you are most proud of?
My strength and resilience. At this point in my life, I know I can get through anything and come out stronger on the other side of it.
What do you most value in your friends?
Honesty, kindness, a sense of adventure, knowing that we’ll always be there for each other.
What is your greatest extravagance?
My greatest extravagance is any type of self care service, such as getting a massage, or a facial, or having my hair done. Basically, spending money on myself when it’s not necessary for survival. I used to feel guilty when I was younger, so it was rare. I’ve gotten over that!
What advice would you give your younger self?
Don’t let the fear of inadequacy or failure keep you from trying new things. Take more chances. Stop trying to do everything that others expect of you.Travel as much as you can. Learn as much as you can.
what is your favorite motto or quote?
This is silly…when my kids were little we used to watch “The Magic School Bus” on PBS together. I loved it when Ms. Frizzle said, “Take chances, make mistakes, get messy!” I think every kid should know that it’s ok to make mistakes, it’s ok to try and fail. It’s part of learning. I didn’t know that until I was an adult.
Additional thoughts for younger women...
Life is an adventure, make the most of it. Take every opportunity that comes your way. Learn as much as you can. No regrets. “Take chances, make mistakes, get messy!”